As a parent or guardian you strive to provide the best for your child. You give them opportunities for success and try to guide them through the perils of young adulthood.
When it comes to helping a student develop time management skills, it can be difficult to know where to start. For those who have this skill naturally, being organized is so intuitive it’s difficult to explain. For those who do not have this skill naturally, the thought of teaching someone else how to get organized can be a daunting task.
While it may be difficult, it is not impossible to get your child on the right track, and helping them project manage is essential to their short term and long term success.
When working with your child on project management skills remember:
Be Patience. Most students that struggle with organization feel incredibly overwhelmed by their workload. They are not disorganized by choice, but rather by paralysis. For many, disorganization leads to academic struggles and test anxiety, which further exacerbates their confidence and makes them hyper vulnerable to self-doubt. Choose a time when you can focus on your child’s needs and won’t be distracted by other responsibilities or burnt out from a stressful workday. By focusing on your child’s needs sans external distractions you’ll be less likely to get annoyed or tense about the task at hand and in turn more likely to provide the verbal and non-verbal support your child needs.
Talk to you Child. As noted above, many children who struggle with organization also struggle with academic confidence and test anxiety. It is imperative that your work is a dialogue with the child, not a punishment. If the student feels that they are being punished for their inability to get organized it will reinforce their self-doubt and imply that they are to blame for their academic struggles, when in most instances the student simply needs some extra help to get on track.
Repetition. Like any other skill learning to get organized is a process. Children go through phases of success, failure, frustration, happiness, and each stage gets them closer to project management self-sufficiency. Additionally, you want these skills to become a habit, which means repetition. Work with your child to find a schedule that works for you both – do you get organized on Saturday mornings? Tuesday and Thursday evenings? Find a time that is mutually beneficial and stick with it!
This process takes time, energy, and resources, but the payoff is self-sufficiency, confidence, and future academic success for your child. For some parents they do not have the bandwidth or skillset to provide this type of support, which is where VIINKO can help. If your student could benefit from a specialized time management coach, reach out for a consultation today.